Has anyone else felt a massive disconnection with their bf?

After our little girl was born things were tough, from being in hospital for 5 days to when we got home, it has gotten a bit better now with baby but with us there’s just a massive distance, I find annoyance of his presence, not going to get too much into it but he wasn’t coping and developed alcohol issues which he is now going to AA meetings but it’s still not helping him with his mental health, sleep deprivation etc and we’re fighting like cat and dog.

I feel there is love there but he is so nasty when we argue, he’s told me to fuck off, shut up, said I deserve it, made me feel insecure about how I look after getting my brows and lashes done - in his words ‘you didn’t need to get slugs for eyebrows done and big lashes, you were perfect before’ I got a brow lamination which at first can look a bit crazy after just getting them done. He’s admitted that he says things to get a reaction out of me aka to hurt me. I just feel very sad, there’s a girl I don’t like who is one of his friends who tried to become more than friends with him when we were seeing before we became official (that’s what he said anyway) and now he’s liking her half naked pictures (she’s one of those gals whom posts pics in underwear/lingerie) but will post on instagram like 10 pics at a time so it looks quite normal then next slide boom lingerie shot, it has been spoken about to him but he just doesn’t really care much, idk. I just feel ugly and insecure.

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Friends child

My best friend has a 5 year old and my daughter is 16 months old. My best friend is amazing with my daughter, and my daughter LOVES her so much. The problem I’m having is her son has a lot of behaviours, she’s in the process of trying to get help with him as they think he might be on the spectrum in some capacity. Her son loves my daughter and she loves him too. The issue is he is VERY aggressive, if he sees his mom giving any attention to my daughter then he’s throwing toys at her, pushing her over, going out of his way to hurt her and when we try to correct it he just laughs at us and gets worse and worse. I am not sure what to do. When he’s in a good mood they play so nicely but then something just switches and he will just terrorize her. I don’t know if we should keep having play dates but they love each other so much. I’m struggling. Has anyone had a similar situation and have any advice?

Spam emails.. help pls so frustrated

My husband keeps getting emails in his spam for pornhub and tinder and many more how do I find out if its just spam mail or if hes just sent them emails to spam or if he is actually on these website? Help!!!

Housework

Does anyone find time to keep a clean & tidy house? Atm I just find time to keep the kitchen clean where baby's bottles are made and make sure he has clean clothes, my partner doesn't clean and it's been a bone of contention since we started living together he just says "it's tidy enough it's fine", I don't want to push the issue too much because he has helped a lotcwith the baby and me emotionally whilst I've struggled with ppd and I don't think I could bear the tension at home. Is anyone's home a palace with a newborn and it's just me 😂, I must add that he does do all the cooking tho, it's just annoying because when he has the baby I'm just catching up on chores and not relaxing or resting like I would want to.

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Question

So I recently became a SAHM and I'm just curious how things are divided in yalls household. I'm primary caregiver, make the food and clean the home. Husband just works and comes home. We recently had a almost 10 week old. And occasionally he will help with bath time and take her for a few mins of the day. But I physically don't get a break. Unless baby is sleeping and usually I have other things to do at that point. I deserve a break too. My husband takes mental breaks out of his work and even gets some hours completely to his self. I refuse to just accept that this is how it is.

Kicked him out left his bags on the doorstep

My partner constantly chooses going out with his mates over me and our 5 month old.

He goes out a few times a month for 4 days at a time to do drugs and party. I have 3 rules. Dont come home on drugs. Dont do drugs around our child and if he goes out for the day not over night. Come back by 7pm.

Hes broken all of these rules in the past 3 weeks ive kicked him out and taken him back. He isnt a bad guy, just makes stupid choices and always puts going out with his mates first.

He has agreed not to do drugs again after he came home 2 days before he was going to a 4 day stag do. And came home with a mate on drugs and I kicked him out.

Well this weekend he went to london for the day with a mate and I asked him to be back for 7 to help with the bed time and see his son. He didnt and got back at 9pm. He then went out yesterday day with mates promised to be home by 7pm and wasnt he got back at 730 by this time I had already packed his stuff and left it on the doorstep.

Im now not sure what to do. He clearly doesnt want to be here and values his mates more than us. Im just having second thoughts about kicking him out.

Any advice welcome. Please note he isnt an addict hes a recreational user. Sorry for rambling