Help my husband wants a divorce I’m 1 week away from giving birth

Im extremely stressed out right now and im 39 weeks pregnant exactly FTM. My husband and I had a huge fight and he said he hated me and wanted a divorce and never wants to be with me again. He has been gone all day and went to a hotel according to our bank statements. He changed his profile pictures to ones of just him, and removed his married status on FB. He took the car as well with the baby’s car seat and my bag. He told me to trust him and he has me blocked on everything. How do I manage and navigate this level Of stress and hurt and prevent my baby from being born too early at this point? Please help.

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What caused this? Seems pretty insane on his part to do out of the blue unless he’s having some mental crisis

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this ❤️ I don't have any real advice for the situation but did want to give a little reassurance that even if baby was born today, 39 weeks is considered full term and a perfectly normal time to deliver.

I think his behavior is suspicious like why is it a problem you have friends with different religion or beliefs? Just curious did your friend ever call him out on his bs cause the hotel? Then threaten divorce? There should never be “ friends he kisses”. If he can’t be a parent he shouldn’t have access to your heart and you should make sure you got everything for now on cause he can’t even have the responsibility knowing what the babies needs like your bag, car seat etc. sorry I went in.

If a man can threaten to leave you - or actually walk away - especially a man of faith, at a time when you could give birth at any moment and are at your most vulnerable, then I truly believe he has done you a favour by showing you who he is now.
You and your baby deserve someone who will stand beside you, protect you, and love you through the hardest moments - not someone who abandons you when you need them most. You deserve so much better.

I might sound rude or harsh but your husband is coward and self centered in this situation. In as much as he feels he wants to divorce u ,why would he do that now that he knows you can actually go in labour anytime from now? Does he really care about u nd the baby at all? From what you explained in comments ,this shouldnt even lead to the thought of divorce not to even think of blocking u and doing all those things . In this moment i want u to calm down because you dont need the stress pls . Try think about the baby nd just forget him for now . Prepare your mind for delivery nd baby. Safe delivery love. God be with you and baby .

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