Moving on
Recently I've come to the decision to no longer allow certain behaviors that are for adults and children. Without trauma dumping, My son and I are in a recovery period. No one in our lives understand that. It's always get over it and you're still held up on it. When "it" wasn't over until November of last year. Through protection orders and not really having any guidance or village when it comes to us, I'm definitely paving the way for our outcome to be bigger than our downfall was. No one knows yet, but we are moving away from everyone we know and everything we know. Somewhere where we can start fresh and continue. We're not running and that's all everyone is going to see it as. I have my baby's childhood in my hands and I'm determined to make it as good as I can before he's older. I don't know if/when we will tell everyone where we are but for now I know and understand that we need to get right and start new.
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You safety and your child safety are most important than what people think xx you got this x stay string mama x
Best of luck. We moved to improve our lot too and because we didn’t have support where we were before. It started with a good job offer in another state, followed by picking a good apartment in nice neighborhood and city for families, the school district is known to be high quality, and we’re slowly getting close friends too with kids of similar ages. My husband’s landed a better job too! Every choice leads you closer to where you want to be when you’re intentional about it.
How empowering for you to cut off the dead weight and start fresh so you can heal properly! Good for you for setting up for the life you want and for the best start you can do for your son! There’s sure to be bumps but every small improvement counts and adds up to quite a lot. Nothing can stop a determined mama 👏 👩 💪
You’re doing great! I’ve personally done the same. You don’t owe anything to anyone who saw you struggling, they’re as good as the abuser. I had people who would pop up and not respect boundaries, the next correspondence was our family has left the state. 🤷🏾♀️ we have skyrocketed since getting aways from
Abusers and those who choose to look the other way or criticize how I heal.
You are such a strong woman and wonderful mom
Wishing you the best new life !!
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Recently I've come to the decision to no longer allow certain behaviors that are for adults and children. Without trauma dumping, My son and I are in a recovery period. No one in our lives understand that. It's always get over it and you're still held up on it. When "it" wasn't over until November of last year. Through protection orders and not really having any guidance or village when it comes to us, I'm definitely paving the way for our outcome to be bigger than our downfall was. No one knows yet, but we are moving away from everyone we know and everything we know. Somewhere where we can start fresh and continue. We're not running and that's all everyone is going to see it as. I have my baby's childhood in my hands and I'm determined to make it as good as I can before he's older. I don't know if/when we will tell everyone where we are but for now I know and understand that we need to get right and start new.
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Next Sunday he is out again all day fishing with his mate.
At the moment I am extremely run down with a chest infection and just feeling like I’m being pushed to one side. I understand he wants to be able to do his own things too on his day off but I’m starting to lose my patience because I am so exhausted and the thought of waiting 3 more weeks until I can have any sort of ‘rest’ is killing me.
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