Husband going on weekend away
Hi all, my husband is going on a weekend to France in a few weekends time to see his friend who lives there -Friday to Sunday. I’m really dreading it as our baby is just over 4 months and currently going through the regression and is super challenging at the moment. I’m so nervous to deal with it all on my own. I may go stay with his parents over the weekend or his sister may come see me for a night but I’m worried as my baby currently screams and melts down if held by anyone but me . I don’t want to be super negative and want my husband to enjoy his weekend but I feel so anxious and stressed . I don’t know whether to have his sister come stay with me for a night or go to his parents a 1 hour drive away to get a break …. As I said her current state means none of them will actually be able to help me as she only wants me ! If I go to his parents I get a change of scenery and have some support but am in a less familiar environment and plus she hates that car!! If I stay home then I’m in a comfortable environment and I’m n my own space but will only have his sister for support for one evening not his whole family …… Any advice ?
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My husband is away on a stag weekend this weekend and I had a similar dilemma. I decided not to ask for family help as I couldn't be certain my in laws would actually help. Same with my parents. All would be happy to see the baby but I'd still be dealing with everything solo with the added pressure of entertaining relatives. The weekend is nearly over and we have managed fine. I found a baby activity that runs on Saturdays and stayed busy today so I haven't felt too isolated.
My hubby went away for 2 weeks and I had such a lovely time with my baby just me & him, so try to make the most of some lovely one on one time.
What is it that you’re worried about? X
I think we dont always recognise our strength and resilience until we are in that situation and often times its good to be thrown in the deep end and we soon see just how much we can cope.
Ive been there too.
Personally, just go with it and if you really feel its unbearable, then call the sister or get in the car but first see if you can manage.
And, note this down... if he goes away now, you can surely claim your own little get away ir spa break in the future at a time tou feel comfortable with leaving your child in capable hands and then you get a proper break for yourself!
You can do it mom! Good luck
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