How do I deal with no intimacy?
We have sex maybe 3 times a month we are young in our twenties with one child about to be a year old but there’s no intimacy no holding hands no random hugs or kisses i mean he goes the whole day and won’t even hold me while we sleep if I don’t go and hold him . I’m getting tired and thoughts of finding someone else is starting to creep in .
I have countless told him I am lonely and what I expect but yet nothing he goes a full day on his phone rather than touch me . Is anyone dealing with this? How are you coping ?
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Girl if you’ve told him countless times and expressed your loneliness and he doesn’t improve , he doesn’t value you
Some once told me, you can’t simply give what you don’t have! He probably grew up that way seeing relationships with no intimacy and that’s his normal.
Try and understand his background is and start working with him slowly, telling him is just one part, showing & teaching him respect counts too!
For me I pray about everything to Christ Jesus to give me directions daily & He does!
My husband has autism so I have to wait for him to be open for cuddling before that happens and even then it's not for long...we have a spicy chat to where we flirt and send each other spicy memes and such. It keeps our intimacy alive and we enjoy it. With a kid you just have to make an effort...if you make an effort and let him know this is what you want, he may reciprocate.
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How do I deal with no intimacy?
We have sex maybe 3 times a month we are young in our twenties with one child about to be a year old but there’s no intimacy no holding hands no random hugs or kisses i mean he goes the whole day and won’t even hold me while we sleep if I don’t go and hold him . I’m getting tired and thoughts of finding someone else is starting to creep in .
I have countless told him I am lonely and what I expect but yet nothing he goes a full day on his phone rather than touch me . Is anyone dealing with this? How are you coping ?
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