Baby Daddy 😒

IMO if he hasn’t been a part of the pregnancy at all, he’s extremely lucky you’re even offering to hyphenate the surname. He doesn’t seem like he’s offering to help coparent enough to feel too bad about not wanting him there. At the end of the day, your comfort during delivery is most important because things like stress can and will affect that. You deserve to have the birth you desire to make it as easy as possible for you and baby. If it hurts him, he’s done it to himself not being there for you when you needed him as a co-parent through the pregnancy.

You are not wrong ma’am. My baby father has also not been apart of my pregnancy from the jump, didn’t want nothing to do with the baby and put his hands on me while I’m pregnant with his baby but still demanded that I name the baby after him and put on a show when his family was around saying that I wouldn’t allow him to be apart of the baby’s life. I changed the baby’s name completely leaving out his name and giving the baby my middle and last name. Since this is a high risk pregnancy I put in my birth plan to not allow him anywhere near me while giving birth and the next day afterwards because stress can do more then you think. In your birth plan you can request him not to be there during birth and have limited to no visitation while recovering and nobody will question you at all. Make sure to have a doula/midwife to help enforce the birth plan and make sure to print out copy’s of your birth plan for any nurses/doctors that will be working with you for extra support

It’s your decision mama, protect you and your baby’s peace 💛 he’s lucky you’re hyphenating the last name

Honestly, you need someone supportive during the birth. Would he be able to give you the support you need?