3 months PP - partner messaging someone
She goes to his run club. I’d voiced I had concerns when I was pregnant and was was overly friendly to him when we attended a GP appt and she was there. He told me it was nothing. I was overthinking it. She just recognised him from run club is all.
After I gave birth we went to the run club venue and she shared his chair. I said then I found that odd. He said it was nothing. I was overthinking it.
I told him I felt vulnerable. Insecure. My body had changed and I didn’t feel attractive.
I went on his phone and he’d been messaging her. He sent something then unsent it. She said she’d seen and he replied ‘Good. I’m glad. Genuinely ❤️’. She loved it. He said ‘in a different world’.
He then gave her his number and she responded with hers. He then went on to tell her I was mad at him and he’d be sleeping in the spare room. I was mad because he’d come home drunk and our 3 month old was sick, so I couldn’t hand over. He didn’t tell her that. She replied saying she was drunk and it must be from all the G&Ts he’d bought her.
I confronted him. He said I’m making out that he’s cheating. I said I was going to message her and ask what he sent but deleted. He said ‘thanks for ruining run club’. Am I overreacting? I feel broken. Like someone has scooped out my insides.
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Maybe do an uno reverse card on him see how he feels I know that’s tit for tat but sometimes people need a taste of their own medicine sometimes 🤔❤️
You’re not overreacting at all, what he’s doing is a form of cheating - he’s keeping secrets, sending messages such as in another world, there’s really only one explanation for it in my opinion. I don’t think you are overthinking and don’t let him gaslight you into thinking that’s the case
That’s not an overreaction. He is over stepping boundaries, heck they both are! You have solid proof via the messages. I wouldn’t drop it, that’s emotional cheating. 🥺
I agree with all the ladies he’s overstepping a boundary that you’ve vocalised multiple times. Your feelings are 100% valid xx
I had the exact same thing with my baby daddy except he was seen kissing the girl in a pub not just buying her drinks. I left him at 4months postpartum. She moved in a week later and he never sees his daughter. I hope you can work it out! But if he doesn’t see what he’s doing is wrong he never will and u need to get out while you can before it breaks you like it did me!❤️❤️
Not over reacting at all, if he can’t understand your boundaries towards other women he is dead wrong. If the tables turned he would be mad. You don’t buy drinks for someone just from run club. Absolutely disrespectful. If my husband tried anything like that I would not let it go. He simply cannot respect boundaries which is unacceptable. He’s gaslighting you
That's cheating. Leave.
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3 months PP - partner messaging someone
She goes to his run club. I’d voiced I had concerns when I was pregnant and was was overly friendly to him when we attended a GP appt and she was there. He told me it was nothing. I was overthinking it. She just recognised him from run club is all.
After I gave birth we went to the run club venue and she shared his chair. I said then I found that odd. He said it was nothing. I was overthinking it.
I told him I felt vulnerable. Insecure. My body had changed and I didn’t feel attractive.
I went on his phone and he’d been messaging her. He sent something then unsent it. She said she’d seen and he replied ‘Good. I’m glad. Genuinely ❤️’. She loved it. He said ‘in a different world’.
He then gave her his number and she responded with hers. He then went on to tell her I was mad at him and he’d be sleeping in the spare room. I was mad because he’d come home drunk and our 3 month old was sick, so I couldn’t hand over. He didn’t tell her that. She replied saying she was drunk and it must be from all the G&Ts he’d bought her.
I confronted him. He said I’m making out that he’s cheating. I said I was going to message her and ask what he sent but deleted. He said ‘thanks for ruining run club’. Am I overreacting? I feel broken. Like someone has scooped out my insides.
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