Hi ladies question
Is it wrong that I want sex 3x a day I am also pregnant with baby #3 my partner tell me no an than when I get mad he said you need to stop this is just to much an than he said it not healthy for the baby what should I do ???😞😞😞😞
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It’s not unhealthy for the baby, likely the hormones have increased your libido but it’s absolutely not ok for you to get mad at him for not being able to keep up with you wanting it 3x a day. Get some toys, apologise to him for being angry about being rejected and give the guy a break lol he’ll be raw
Not wrong to want it 3x a day. Hormones can do it's thing. There are safe ways to do it when pregnant and you can share such with him to reduce his worry as many men are this way when partners are pregnant.
I understand you being mad at him. But this can be approached in a different and better way because I'm sure if it was the other way round, you also would want a break when yours is not as high as his.
Also, things that would help would be doing/saying things that naturally gets you both in the mood before the deed and that just makes it happen more naturally without one person feeling like it's a chore or becoming too much.
it’s absolutely fine for the baby, what’s not fine is you getting mad at your partner for saying no. you should learn that your partner isn’t a dildo, and he doesn’t owe you sex. either pleasure yourself when you feel like that and he isn’t feeling up for it, or get a grip. if this post was gender swapped everyone on this app would be screaming that he’s a coercive dick. it’s never okay to get mad at someone for not wanting sex every time you do, whether you’re hormonal, horny or not.
It’s not wrong to have a high sex drive but it is wrong to be angry with a partner who says no. You both need to be open to discussion, about both of your needs and feelings right now too. He might not want it 3x a day, he might be tired or stressed and that’s okay. He might be worried about the baby and that’s okay too. Talk to each other but getting mad at him for saying no to sex is not healthy xx
It isn’t unhealthy for baby, it doesn’t affect the baby and the baby doesn’t feel what is going on, but I have heard how some guys do get freaked out about doing stuff while their girl is pregnant. But I would just talk to him, and maybe your doctor can also help tell him, there’s no need to worry about that.
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Hi ladies question
Is it wrong that I want sex 3x a day I am also pregnant with baby #3 my partner tell me no an than when I get mad he said you need to stop this is just to much an than he said it not healthy for the baby what should I do ???😞😞😞😞
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