Problems with BD

So throughout this pregnancy we have argued none stop and it's been a lot of him just going out for drinks after work e.g, I don't mind him doing that but it does annoy me when I've been home all day pregnant and I wait for him to come home and he just seems to take the piss and longs it out BC he's enjoying the conversations he's having with people, he ends up saying I'm just jealous and that's why I have a problem which hurts...I just wish in a way like he would want to come home to me? Yesterday we got in probably one of the worst arguments we had, although he was trying to be positive with me and tell me that everything will work out and we'll be okay and work through things, it resulted in me explaining that I feel like I'm losing myself a bit with pregnancy and I'm also worried about the aftermath and not having time to do things for myself (like eat or shower e.g) which he then turns around and says to get over it and many other woman have to do it so I can do it too, I just think he's harsh sometimes with his words and I don't know how to feel towards him sometimes, it did get very heated, he did call me stupid and a spoilt brat but hasn't said sorry since, he even spoke about co-parenting...we are okay atm but I don't think anything really got sorted from this argument apart from it's just me being really negative?? Idk how to feel lol 3/2 weeks to meeting our baby girl too it's just a lot

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Something similar happened to me and my ex would talk a lot about co-parenting and they tend to set their mind in breaking up . It did not get better he would insult me and never apologize while I kept trying. Once they start disrespecting you and don’t
Care, don’t care if they hurt you at all I can say it will get worse specially with a child in the way it got 90% worse. All I can say is put yourself first and what what’s best for you, wish you the best!

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Pregnancy is a lot, and motherhood is a lot! You need someone who is by your side through everything to do with pregnancy because it's a lonely place. Yes, you will adjust. Your love for your baby overrides everything, but PLEASE take time for yourself when they are here! My suggestion is to sleep when they sleep during the night until the time you usually get up or a few hours after, depending on how they are. During the day, shower when they are asleep, or get in the bath/shower with them depending on how comfortable you are with either and eat when you can. The best advice i got was try to set routines for yourself but let baby do what they need to do, let your routines drift by a few hours and soak your baby in in-between. Lean on people and ask for help because people are actually willing to help. If you need someone to talk to don't hesitate to reach out. My girl has just turned one, postpartum is a whirlwind, but you need to look after you regardless of what your partner is doing.

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And remember, you CAN do this. No matter what the outcome looks like for you and your partner. You are so much stronger than you realise. Don't let anyone tarnish a thing about welcoming your little one to the world.

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So BD and I were just talking and the question of when did I lose my virginity came up. I did not feel comfortable answering him. So I told him. The reason behind this is when he knows something about my past he uses it against me later on during arguments. I said this to him. He said he wouldnt. I still dont trust him because hes done this many times. Mind you ive been with him 4 years. Ive never asked abt his past hes never asked much about mine. I honestly think if it happened before me its not something I NEEEEED to know unless he wants to share. Dont get me wrong I want to know about him and what made him who he is today. But intimicy is just… idk. Honestly Im not proud of the age I lost mine. But mostly its just me not wanting this brought up later on being the reason why I dont want to tell him. Anyway aftwr I said I didnt feel comfortable and kept saying I wouldnt tell. He kind of gave me an ultimatum saying he didnt want to be w me if I keep secrets. I responded by saying well I dont want to be w you if youre not going to respect my boundaries and youre going to call it quits over this. Everntually we said well talk about it after work. Am I wrong? Should I just tell him? Or what should I do or say?

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