How does / will(?!) the four month sleep regression ever end?

I think we’ve been in it for seven weeks now. It started the night he turned 12 weeks and he’s nearly 20 weeks now. I’ve seen things saying babies just grow out of it but how long do we wait? How long was it for all of you?

I am losing my marbles. Broken nights for this long are ruining us all. My baby wakes up miserable because he’s had such a broken night, I am a zombie, and my husband feels guilty being off at work and leaving the two of us.

And it feels like it’s getting worse, not better. Now, we aren’t even getting a longer stretch unbroken at the start of the night, it really is literally every hour the entire night long.

Baby’s naps are awful too. If I can fix them, will the nights improve, or is it the other way round?

Do I keep just waiting this out?

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Oh hun, I'm so sorry this is rough 💜 sometimes it's temperament and not the regression.
And the babies just like this and sometimes the other leaps (6, 9, 12) just blurr in to each other and don't start /stop, it's so frustrating because some babies stop and reset and some don't have them at all.

My experience says you can't force naps at a schedule if they don't wanna nap and go baby lead. My first was a non sleeper for the longest time and I just had to accept it and sleep when I could and also ask for help!

As one good night's sleep can be the difference for you coping and not coping. Outsource if you have to. Co sleep if you have to.

Leave the house, and just focus on sleeping whenever you can.

This won't be everyone's experience though, it was mine, and it does improve just not quickly and so tell everyone you're struggling and genuinely tell them what support you need is my advice, I stayed and suffered silently and I regret it!

I don’t want to jynx it but I think we’re emerging from the other side after 6 weeks. Still generally more wake ups than pre-regression but also one or two 6 hour nights!

We are going to start “gentle” sleep training though i.e. trying to put him down awake, comfort if cry, try again as we’ve found when he’s waking up in the night its not because he’s hungry - he just can’t get himself back to sleep. Hoping to try and support some independent sleep.

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