My little girl (16 months old) has been at her nursery since August and is struggling awfully with settling in. She cries all day, repeatedly says ‘mama’ and has never eaten a single thing whilst being there. When I collected her yesterday one nursery worker asked if she ‘ever plays at home’ which has really shaken me as she is the happiest, cheekiest girl and is constantly playing so I know that I have to take her out of the setting as it’s just not working. My dilemma is that I love my job and have no other alternative childcare so I either have to take a sabbatical (and be unable to earn money during this time) or hand my notice in at work and leave the job I have worked so hard for. I need some advice!🤦♀️ My mum head is telling me it’s a no-brainer but if anyone has any other suggestions I’d be all ears!
(I have rang around all other local nurseries and childminders but there are no available places until March earliest!)
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Could you take the satirical till a placement for another nursery? And try another one, If same thing happens then quit ya job? Mine has been going since September and still cried when I leave, but is usually find about half hour after x
It would have to be an agreed length of time away as I’m a teacher so they’d have to find a replacement for me for a set time… my little girl cries the whole time she’s there (around 9/10 hours) and I just can’t keep taking her there hoping things get better for her ☹️

I feel for you. It’s horrible to think of them being upset all day ❤️ Have you discussed this with the nursery to see what could be put in place to support her? I’m a teacher too and if a child was struggling to settle in school, we would suggest a few different things to help them before making any big decisions. Maybe ask for a meeting?

Have you tried asking friends, family or colleagues for recommendations? I was in a similar position, contacted all the local nurseries and childminders and got nowhere. Then a friend passed on the number of their childminder, a woman who I’d already contacted twice already only to be told she had no availability, but the minute I said X recommended her, all of a sudden she had space. My daughter has settled fine with a childminder, but wouldn’t settle at a nursery.
Also, when contacting nurseries/childminders, if you only ask for a few days towards the end of the week rather than the full week or start of the week, they sometimes have availability as people work part time or compress hours and take Fridays off. If you managed that, it’s not ideal because it’s unfunded, but you could hiring a nanny for the missing days until March. Or maybe try ad hoc settings or pop up nurseries and see if you can book until March.
My husband is unemployed (not by choice), we have a 6 year old in full day kindergarten and an almost 2 year old at home. I work full time but have a hybrid schedule - only have to go in to the office 2 days a week. So that means sometimes I am at home working, or handling household tasks while parenting the 2 year old.
When my husband is home all day with the two year old, he handles caring for her and will cook dinner.
If I work from home while he has an interview or appt, I will care for the two year old and get household chores done around the house (tidying up, doing laundry, cleaning the kitchen, organizing our daughters toys/clothes). If I’m at the office, I usually come home to a messy house, laundry to put away, etc.
When I asked him how he could help me at home, he said he didn’t know. Said he would be busy with our two year old but could clean up the kitchen. Our bedroom has been covered in laundry for weeks and I seem to be the only one that makes an effort to put it away.
Am I asking for too much when thinking he could make more of an effort multitasking work around the house while he’s with our two year old? Or Should I stop comparing women and men’s efforts with multi-tasking with children?
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My little girl (16 months old) has been at her nursery since August and is struggling awfully with settling in. She cries all day, repeatedly says ‘mama’ and has never eaten a single thing whilst being there. When I collected her yesterday one nursery worker asked if she ‘ever plays at home’ which has really shaken me as she is the happiest, cheekiest girl and is constantly playing so I know that I have to take her out of the setting as it’s just not working. My dilemma is that I love my job and have no other alternative childcare so I either have to take a sabbatical (and be unable to earn money during this time) or hand my notice in at work and leave the job I have worked so hard for. I need some advice!🤦♀️ My mum head is telling me it’s a no-brainer but if anyone has any other suggestions I’d be all ears!
(I have rang around all other local nurseries and childminders but there are no available places until March earliest!)
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Today is rainy so outside isn’t an option. He’s 17 months helppp😭

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6.5 month old. How often do i offer food ?
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Just asking for advice, I’ve found a cleaner (uk England) that charges £20 she’s an independent cleaner so is not through an agency.
Very nice lady etc etc but both times she’s been here I’ve noticed she doesn’t empty the bathroom bin which I thought she would do nor cleaned the mirror and I’ve also notice she doesn’t always clean under some units in the dining room nor the bed (I understand is tricky to use the hoover in this due to the space ).
What are your thoughts? I ask her to come for 3 hours both times and both times she’s told me that 3 hours might be too much for what she’s got to do which is a general cleaning for 2 bedrooms, one bathroom, etc.
I don’t understand why if she “has spare time” why wouldn’t she perform a better cleaning.
And yes, both times she’s stayed for the 3 hours and that’s what we paid her.
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Need to have a bit of a rant. Am I being unreasonable?
Me and my husband have a 3 month old daughter. He had a week of leave off when she was born, he was great - supportive, helped at nights, ensured there was always food to eat. Took another week of paternity leave 3 months later and treated it like his own personal holiday; went to the gym every day, cleaned his car and made sure we visited his parents.
He comes home from work and most nights goes on his phone and doesn't interact with our baby girl until bedtime, will do her nappy (if I ask him to) and doesn't help at night because 'he has work in the morning'. He heats dinner up as we meal prepped before we had our baby but that tends to be about it. During the day I tidy, clean up, do the clothes washing, walk the dog - all with a 3 month old and exclusively breastfeeding. Our original plan which I remind him is that on the weekends he will wake to do nappies then go downstairs in the morning to bottle feed so I can get another hour of sleep before we start our day. I think that happened twice.
Am I being unreasonable? Am I asking or expecting too much? Most of the time I feel like I'm solo parenting even though he is in the house living with us. I feel sad as we've been together 12 years, married 1 and when we talked about raising children I never expected to be in this position.
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