Sex postpartum - post 2nd degree tear
I had a 2nd degree tear and had stitches. I've had sex only twice so far since (now 4 months pp). It has been so painful mainly where the tear was, skin feels so tight and it just causes pain.
I used a lot of lube but that didn't help much, felt like my skin just wasn't stretching at all. Any advice?
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I never had pain with mine, first time it felt a little tight but never again afterwards. However, my pelvic floor physio said to massage it - not like how you'd think a massage would be, just very very light strokes over the scar. Maybe that could help you over time?
I had a c section and it still felt very tight and uncomfortable for me, so of course it would take longer when you are recovering from a tear. We took it easy, for as much as i could, then we finished other ways 😆😆 take your time, take it easy and don't force yourself! It will get better!
Have you been checked by the rehabilitation team?
I’m the same 2nd degree tear and stitches. I’m three months pp. I was offered an appointment to check about 2 weeks ago. I still had pain especially around the stitches and they checked and said that I had a stitch that hasn’t come out yet.
Either try and massage it out over 4 weeks or go to the doctor to get it removed. Worth a check
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I had a 2nd degree tear and had stitches. I've had sex only twice so far since (now 4 months pp). It has been so painful mainly where the tear was, skin feels so tight and it just causes pain.
I used a lot of lube but that didn't help much, felt like my skin just wasn't stretching at all. Any advice?
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