Do I report to the police?
Guys need advice - My neighbours making life incredibly difficult lately. He keeps climbing his ladder to look over into my garden — it makes me feel so watched and uncomfortable, especially with my two little ones playing out there. He keeps going on the ladder to question my builders while they're working. He climbs then bangs on my windows with a broom …
Today he banged so hard my kids started screaming !! , I went out and he was moaning about noise when it was just my washing machine finishing its cycle this was at 2pm!He also keeps calling the council to report me about my extension, so I think he climbs over to actually take pictures as well . There’s a
bit of mess rn while we're having work done — things that are literally none of his business.
But I feel like since i went over to try to talk to him at his door things have gotten worse ! he didn’t even open the door so I just wrote him a letter as I just want peace .
I explained to him I don’t like him climbing over and still he climbed over!
He also came on to my property and painted my fence at the front of my door without my permission still I said nothing as his a older man . But I honestly feel like theirs more to this now his Greek Cypriot and my partners Turkish Cypriots and the Greeks hate the Turkish Cypriots so I feel like his actually racist and just trying to bully us. Do I call the police?
I’ve already emailed the council but I’m not sure what they can even do as his bought his house. But why does that mean it’s okay for him to paint my property fence ? Or constantly climb the fence. He also went to his back garden to sharpen some tools after the argument and also told my partner to come closer to the fence 😭when he had a broom in his hand .
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Call the police
That is concerning and I definitely would feel uncomfortable! I'd call and file a complaint!
If I was you I'd install cctv cameras. Id also log this with the police
I agree cameras for sureN
Turkish cypriot here too👋 definitely also sounds racist aswell as just threatening in general call the no emergency police aswell as keep a record of every incident this is very threatening behaviour bordering perverted and stalkish
Call the police make a a paper trail then get a lawyer to file harassment charges and restraining order specifically claiming in the report these exact things say you fear for your children’s safety and make sure this is in the reports and the harassment and restraining order as well make it about your kids safety and wellbeing not about him being annoying you will get along lot farther than if you just claim for it as him being a disgruntled neighbor
100% call the police. Non of that is okay!
Definitely get cameras that record and pick up sound. Keep it as evidence and call the police. Better be safe and feel safe in your own home. X
Deffo call the police and if you have cameras provide that as evidence because that is considered harassment and obviously trespassing. If the police create a report on it provide that as evidence to the council too because it is at that point harassment for you and your kids.
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