Intimacy

Has anyone else not been intimate with their partner since finding out they were pregnant ? I don’t think my boyfriend likes me anymore it’s been 4 months and I try to initiate but his excuse is always he’s tired then we argue and he says it’s because we’ve argued.

I’m losing it here this is the longest time I’ve ever gone without being intimate and I don’t know what to do or think now.

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I think you should have a proper sit down and communicate that with him. With my now ex, we were still intimate up until the day the I had my son and it can still be a fun experience while pregnant.

If you need someone to talk to you can always DM me I’ll listen x

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That was my experience with my old partner. And it did not get better, he said the exact words that we argue, we went almost a year with mayb 5 times. My advice is focus on you, don’t keep asking or begging for sex bc if they wanted to they would. Feel confident in your body love yourself. Try and see where the fighting is happening, try to adjust that and see

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There are 2 types of men when women fall pregnant. 1 the ones who now find it weird having sex knowing that there’s another body in the room. In the womb. Or he’s scared to thrust and hurt the baby even though the baby is very very far from the cervix. Then the other type of men are the ones who find it ultra sexy that he got his woman pregnant. He finds her sexy. It’s a fetish almost. He can’t keep his hands off her. Her boobs and butt grows and he’s very into that making him more horny. My man was the second type. Just sounds like your man is the first type. Have a good chat to him though and you’ll find out.

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i’m currently 3 weeks pp but when i was pregnant i went months without even thinking about it , it got to the point where my partner thought something was wrong or that i just wasn’t attracted to him anymore .

But i think you should pull him for a chat ! and real sit down long conversation about what’s going on .

But don’t feel like it’s you !! and don’t let the lack of sexual tension put you down in the deep , it’s normal for both males and females to not want to be sexually involved when it’s pregnancy involved.

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Do you openly express to him when you're sexually frustrated?

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Ive not been intimate with my partner since we found out - im approaching 37wks - the reason behind it was after 2 losses last year, we didn't want to take any chances and if I was to start spotting, it would've been very triggering.. but now we're in the final stretch I feel safe enough to go for it but we will see if he is keen or finds it's odd lol .. i sure miss the intimacy x

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I’m losing it here this is the longest time I’ve ever gone without being intimate and I don’t know what to do or think now.

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