Intimacy post-partum
Myself and my partner haven’t really been intimate (sex specifically) my entire pregnancy, naturally I’m feeling insecure about myself and worried. He worries a lot about the baby (I have worried a lot less) and he’s also said he doesn’t think he could be intimate with a baby in the room.
Safe sleep guidance is for baby to sleep in the same room as you for six months, so does that mean no intimacy for six months?
I feel like the lack of intimacy is affecting my self confidence.
Of course baby safety is more important than intimacy - I just wonder how everyone else does it?!
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We concieved our LO via IVF and we were advised to abstain during treatment. Then my husband would not be intimate whilst pregnant, then our LO was in the same room as us, then I was living with my parents for months as our LO stopped being able to sleep in the same room and we were in a one bedroom flat, now we have moved back in together to a house, baby is 14 months with his own room. We havent had sex in over 2 years 😳
You can have sex, outside the room as long as you have the monitor on and attend if needed.
It's sleeping in a different room overnight not you can't leave them alone in the room at all at any point. X
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