Feeling alone
This is my first pregnancy and I’m starting to get worried about how I’ll be postpartum. I have an amazing husband who honestly is the best support and person I could ask for.
I just don’t have any friends. I’ve not had any friends for about 5 years so only have my husband to hang out with but don’t want to suffocate him.
I’ve been fine not having any girl friends generally as I’ve been at work to have other people to talk to but now I’ve finished work I’m already feeling very low and worried how I’ll be postpartum when it’s just me.
Sorry for the rant but looking for some advice :)
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I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this. Do you have family? Mum, dad, or siblings? I met some amazing women when I went to pregnancy yoga with my first pregnancy. And one that is now one of my best friends 7 years later. I would encourage you to attend any local pregnancy groups you can find online, and then after the baby is born you can go to baby and mum classes, there’s so many, you’re bound to make some friends! When are you due? X
My mum lives around 2 hours away and my sister is around 50 mins but has a lot on her plate so I don’t bother her much. I’ve had a look and there aren’t any local pregnancy groups unless I drive around 30 mins so not as easy this far along 😂 I’m due early November ☺️
I may be perfectly fine afterwards not having anyone to meet up with just something I’ve been concerned x
Yeah I can understand that! I’m due early November too and just a 10 minute drive is uncomfortable 🙈 See if you can find any mum and baby groups / classes nearby. There’s ones like baby sensory, baby yoga, mummy fitness classes where you take your baby. If there’s a local library near you have a look and see what’s on there. The one near me does read and rhyme twice a week, and they do a breastfeeding support group at mine too. I found it hard with my first baby to be in the house so I was always out and about and you meet loads of people x
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Feeling alone
This is my first pregnancy and I’m starting to get worried about how I’ll be postpartum. I have an amazing husband who honestly is the best support and person I could ask for.
I just don’t have any friends. I’ve not had any friends for about 5 years so only have my husband to hang out with but don’t want to suffocate him.
I’ve been fine not having any girl friends generally as I’ve been at work to have other people to talk to but now I’ve finished work I’m already feeling very low and worried how I’ll be postpartum when it’s just me.
Sorry for the rant but looking for some advice :)
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