Advice on friendships

I understand what you mean, I’ve been reflecting as well about past friendships & wishing I tried harder to maintain them. Especially now that I don’t really interact with other people other than my husband lol. But I think it’s best to just let things be, if it’s meant to happen again it’ll happen but it’s best not stress or overthink things of this nature.

A real friend will stick around even when you’re busy. I’ve just seen my friend for the first time in a year. We both know how busy we both are and check in when we can but with work and kids and life it’s just not possible to always meet up. But when we can and do we pick up where we left off. It’s a mutual understanding.

I lost everybody, the most important people to me. They have decided to not be in contact and my parents moved out of state. I’ve been so extremely lonely other than having my kids and my husband, all my other friends have kids, and they’re all boys and they’re older or younger kids and I have two girls. It’s been one of the most heartbreaking things I’ve had to go through with losing my best friend of 24 years who went no contact with me and my only brother/ sibling who also went no contact because he said we had different beliefs. And my ex Best Friend said she didn’t see me being apart of her life in the future because she went off to college and told me she didn’t want me part of her life. This has been the hardest time but yet the most eye-opening. It takes a strong mom to get through it, but it was not easy at all, I’ve had to find the right antidepressants because the emotional pain was too much after having kids back to back and my hormones adjusting.

I catch myself feeling like I could be a more present friend often but I am always there if my friends need me, even if it’s been months/ years since we’ve last spoken. My best friend since childhood hasn’t talked to me in over a year, recently saw that she deleted me on socials as well. The last time we talked she got upset with me because she was supposed to come over to meet my baby & I asked her if we could do a different morning because we had had a rough night… she doesn’t have kids yet but I don’t feel like I did anything wrong by asking for a reschedule. We haven’t spoken since. I think some friendships can be outgrown as you move through different stages of life and it’s best to just let it be. True friends understand that life happens and won’t let that get in the way of anything.