How did you know marriage was over?
Husband and I haven’t been intimate since the conception of son May 2024. I have no desire and feel like we’re not on the same page anymore. I feel like I’ve evolved in terms of what I’d like for the future and he’s content with how life has been for the past decade. Everything he does annoys me and we speak when we need to and after putting in a lot of effort, I can be cordial. How did you manage things after separation/divorce and how did your kids manage? Mine are currently 5 and 20 months. How did you feel after doing it?
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I think it's hard when the kids are young. Sounds like you need a really good heart to heart with your partner to see if you can get back on track. It is hard to find a good person so you could regret if you don't try to make it work. There is no guarantee you would meet someone else soon so you could be on your own for a while.
But if you know its over, then you will feel relieved when you've separated. It is not easy being a single parent and kids don't like change so they could be more challenging. I left a long relationship and wish I did it sooner. It was hard being a single parent but my only wish was that I should have left sooner as it was a really bad place for me and the kids. The kids had started to talk badly to me copying their father and that was the last straw for me. There was no going back. My mind was already made up by the time I left.
I was thankful i ended mine 6 years ago. He was useless and felt like a single mum anyway. I now have a supportive partner and having #3. Wouldn't have it any other way
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How did you know marriage was over?
Husband and I haven’t been intimate since the conception of son May 2024. I have no desire and feel like we’re not on the same page anymore. I feel like I’ve evolved in terms of what I’d like for the future and he’s content with how life has been for the past decade. Everything he does annoys me and we speak when we need to and after putting in a lot of effort, I can be cordial. How did you manage things after separation/divorce and how did your kids manage? Mine are currently 5 and 20 months. How did you feel after doing it?
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